Marriage: A bejewelled beginning.

Hello everyone! Its good to see you after a long gap.A major calamity in our state shook me well, but Kerala has risen again with full vigor and vitality.Pardon me for diverting from the topic. Now, let me take you to experience a Kerala Hindu marriage. I would like to specifically use the term marriage rather than wedding, as marriage refers to the long term relationship between two people.But my take on that day’s experience will be bit satirical.

I started my journey from home to attend the marriage of my DISTANT cousin.I barely knows my relation with the bride.In the car,stuffing earphones in my ear I am oblivious of the tiring trip.Reaching the venue, I was bit nervous watching the huge crowd. The entrance beam was covered with flowers which I haven’t seen in my life. Entering the auditorium I began to scan the happenings around me. The crowd can be divided into several gangs or groups. The first visible group was the Ladies of age 50-60s,they were busy passing gossips, sharing their sorrow on the end of their favorite TV shows and discussing about diseases and calamities.The next one is the Male gang ageing 50-80s,they were chatting about international matters,debating on decriminalisation of LGBT act 377, petrol hike and mostly about the good old days.And the young men talked about salary hike, day-to-day grievances,work pressure and so on. And the teenagers who were intently talking about their areas of interest. But the only group which gave me pleasure was the small kids, they were whizzing past like aeroplanes in front of me either to sneak another helping of the welcome drink,some throwing a mischievous glance or a generous smile at me.Then my attention was grabbed by the save the date,trailer and teaser videos of the couple.Even though we know that life can never be a fairytale,the whole idea of fairy-tale like teaser pacified my thought. And sorry for not mentioning the stars of the day, the marriage photographers. They turn the most-ordinary wedding to a ceremony that happens in heaven,something extraordinary. Such is the creativity of those people that almost everyone deliberately pass in front of them to get a seem-to- be-a-good-candid photo.And the helicam made me bit nervous as I thought it would land on my head as if its a helipad.And onstage the hero and heroine of the day were escorted by a group of girls with Thaalam-a plate consisting of lamp and flowers, the bride and groom were ready to pose for the photos until their cheek muscles got tired.We have to appreciate the jewelled bride for posing without showing a face.And the ceremony began with the couple seeking blessings of the God and their elders by touching their feet.The bride’s father hands his daughter’s hand to the son-in-law’s,this symbolises that he would protect and look after his daughter from then on.And when the right time came-muhurtham, the groom tied the sacred Taali-the thread that keeps them united for 7 lifes.And flowers kept showering from all sides was a visual treat.And side by side another major and my favorite event took place,the sadya.The not-so-close- acquaintance usually went straight to have Sadya. I love this one thing in marriage, especially all the curries placed in order.On top of the rice,parippu curry(dal curry) topped with ghee was put,this has a scientific reason too. It is to grease our gut before eating so that choking can be avoided.Similarly all the curries arrived in order due to such reasons. We Malayalees have Payasam(dessert) with pappadam and to avoid getting dulcified we lick a finger of pickle.Eating sadya itself is an endearing experience.Keeping aside sadya,the event was a huge social gathering of culture heritage.And in olden times when the bride leaves from the Mandapam she sheds tears of sadness as she is leaving her family, but I thought it to be dramatic.But now, brides get in the car with a content and happy face.

So the family spends their lifetime earnings to celebrate a marriage.But we cannot blame them as for some, the sole purpose of their life is the marriage of their children.And thus they lived HAPPILY EVER AFTERπŸ˜‚.

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    1. Thank you so much! 😻

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    1. Thank you so much! 😍

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  1. Love the post, I appreciate learning about a Hindu wedding! Thank you so much for the follow!

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    1. Thank you so much for commenting!😍
      Its only a glimpse of the marriage, there are many more customs in it. I merely focused on the surrounding hustle and bustle

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      1. Yes, but it was still a lovely post!

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        1. Aww!! Thanks alot 😍

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  2. It was cool to read about some of the marriage traditions in your part of the world! I also agree with you, the food and the mischievous acts of the kids are the best things about weddings!

    I also appreciate your subtle satire. I sometimes wonder why people spend so much money on weddings, when statistically speaking, many marriages only last a few years – at least in the U.S.

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    1. Thank you so much for spending your precious time reading my post!!πŸ’
      People are used to spend their hard earned money on marriages even though it is not much necessary.
      In India the marriage relationship continues because of their children or the fear of their image. A divorcee is considered as a bad mark in India. So people usually silently suffer the suffocating married life. But now things are changing,most people think about their own self esteem rather than bothering about their image in the society.

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  3. Danny says:

    Interesting narrative. I see a lot of similarities between your culture and mine.

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    1. Thank you so much!! Please do share something about your culture too πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

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  4. Thank you fot sharing this post about marriage in the state of kerala. Good to know things are returning to normal. I have visited kerala nit everywhere thou. Very different and nice to other bits of india

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    1. Thank you so much!
      Yes ,Kerala is getting back to normal atmosphere.Initiatives to rebuild Kerala is going on. Do come to Kerala sometime πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

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  5. OneLife says:

    I spent a generous time in Kerala during the honeymoon and did encounter a marriage in progress, but from a distance. Your post helped me quench my curiosity about the rituals and protocols. Enjoyed the flow of things and genuine emotions.
    Hope things are better after the floods!

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    1. Thank you so much for commenting.
      Everything is getting better now in Kerala. 😍

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      1. OneLife says:

        Glad to know that πŸ‘

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    1. Thabk you so much 😍

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  6. quiall says:

    I enjoyed that! I also liked the difference between marriage and wedding. Well done. And thank you for following my blog.

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    1. Thank you so much!
      Glad you liked it.I am looking forward to your posts. πŸ˜ƒ

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  7. Anonymous says:

    Climax!! πŸ˜‚πŸ‘Well done Maaluu.. Keep going..

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    1. Thank you so much!
      May I know who this is? πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜…πŸ˜

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    2. Got you πŸ˜‚πŸ˜

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    1. Thank you so much sir!
      Means a lot πŸ˜ƒ

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  8. csprasath says:

    You ended up with a good timing πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ ” they lived HAPPILY EVER AFTER ” . Nice Post !!

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    1. Thank you so much!
      Almost all the movies pacifies the viewers by ending “And thus they lived happily ever after ” or “shubham”, but rarely such things happen. Life can never be happily ever after, its a rollercoaster ride full of adventure,bumps,fun and fears.
      I am happy that you got the line in the right sense. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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      1. csprasath says:

        I agree and life will have more twists and unexpected turns and that is the reality. Life’s real challenge to us is to face them !!

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  9. loisobleu says:

    Merci un agrΓ©able rappel de merveilleux voyage pour moi…

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    1. I am glad you liked it!
      Thank you so much for commenting πŸ’—

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  10. Beautiful write up Malavika – really felt i was with you – having fun with the kids and gobbling the sadhya. πŸ™‚ I loved your thoughtful notes about the crying of brides, the photographers and the huge expenses too. Thank You. πŸ™‚

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    1. I am really glad you took your precious time to comment what you liked the most!
      Thank you soo much! β€πŸ’™

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      1. i liked everything! πŸ™‚ You write so well and weave beautiful analogies within – will wait for more. πŸ™‚

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        1. Thank you so much!πŸ’

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  11. Chiru says:

    Good one.. The last line parents always want to spend all of their earnings on marriage for nothing.. I wonder is it really required to please relatives.

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    1. True.. Some consider marriage as a prestige issue, because the grandeur of the marriage is mostly assessed by the amount of gold the bride wears πŸ˜‚
      Thank you so much for commenting!

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      1. Chiru says:

        If i were in their place, i would have saved all for travelling all over the world and still be left with something..

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        1. Oh God, me too. Love to travel😍.

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          1. Chiru says:

            That’s nice to hear.. Travelling is so much fun and stress relieving.

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  12. Riman Ray says:

    Hey Malvika…. nice to see you after a long time…
    Great post with a superb ending😁

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    1. Haha… Thank you so much! πŸ˜‚β€

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  13. Described a malayalee marriage perfectly !

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    1. Thank you so much! πŸ’•

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  14. Liz says:

    Oooh – this sounds like a really beautiful and fun affair! I love the children zooming like aeroplanes – they add joy to things!

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    1. Thank you so much! It is really a fun affair and is even celebrated like a festival.πŸ˜ƒ

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  15. A piece of my soul says:

    That last sentence is soo accurate regarding Indian Parents πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ dont really know if I should laugh about it πŸ˜…

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    1. Me too… When looking through their eyes, it might be the ultimate goal. But today’s generation has much bigger priorities than marriage. For most its secondary.
      Thanks alot for commenting! πŸ’œ

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      1. A piece of my soul says:

        I really find that as an absurd concept somehow. Glad you could relate 😁

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          1. A piece of my soul says:

            Do visit my blog sometime 😊 and thank you for following

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          2. Sure!
            I was about to go through your blog πŸ˜€

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  16. Rainyshadows says:

    I adore the fact that you went to the kids gang.. It’s only once in a while we get opportunities to escape our adult life and even then getting stuck into the dreary adult talks… Ughhh leave me out of it πŸ˜‚
    Nice write up.. I literally could hear the hustle bustle of a traditional wedding..

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    1. Thank you so much!
      Kids are always innocent and fun to hang out with.Glad that you got the feel of the wedding πŸ’›

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  17. Nice thanks for the trip

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    1. Welcome πŸ˜‡πŸ’

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      1. πŸŒΉπŸ‘πŸŒΉπŸ‘

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  18. It’s been long since attended one. Had an imaginary tour of a wedding through your post.

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    1. Thank you so much! πŸ˜‚β€

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