Being a single child…

YES!! I am an only child.The world of an only child is entirely different from that of a child who has siblings. Assessing myself I found that I have equal share of merits and demerits as an only child.It is really interesting to delve into the psychology of both cases.I believe that genuinity arises only from life experience.So I would like to share with you my version of life as a single child.

You have to stand up and support yourself,no one will do it for you.My parents gave me all the freedom to chase my weird dreams and extreme ambitions.And I think I am certainly utilising that opportunity.The skill of ‘standing by thyself‘ has helped me a lot in life.While people of my age lean on their siblings for help, I learnt to help myself.You get a lot of time to contemplate and assess yourself,if you are a single child.At times I talk to myself and discover things that can’t be put in words.Those moments are epiphanic and magical.There are two kinds of single children,the one who readily mingles with everyone and the shy ones who are to be invited to mingle.I belong to the first one,I acclimatise in a group easily.You become strong,resilient and empowered as an only child.

The negative side of being a single child is that, you have none to spill your feelings.You have no one to unfurl your secrets.As a solution to this problem I usually scribble sad quotes that reflect my current mood.But it doesn’t usually help much,as it only creates a vent to push out your crammed emotions.Another major drawback is that you don’t learn the act of ‘sharing’.You must put effort and cultivate it.For children with siblings sharing is a part of their life.Earlier I used to have a tough time sharing my things with others.I believe in the idea that ‘some people enter your life and they change you into another person that you can barely recognise’.Yes such Homo sapiens do exist, in my life they are friends.Now I have undergone a sea change.The best proof is that now my friends and I eat from a single plate๐Ÿ˜‚.And I eat their brains too.Life gets more lighter,easier and enjoyable when you have companions.Being a single child is not an excuse but an opportunity to meet new people.Even though I lack siblings, the space is completely filled by my cousins.I have countless cousins to hang out with.I always keep in touch with them and also try to renew my relation with my old teachers and friends๐Ÿ˜.

Society always look at single children with a prejudiced mind.According to the society, single child means a spoilt brat.They think us as headstrong,precocious and bad at making friends.There might be such cases but very rare.I am not over loved or over cared.And I can confidently say that I am good at making friends.Each individual is different and unique.But I believe being a single child is quite tough at the same time adventurous.


Please do comment your experience if you are a single child or your experience with your siblings.I am eagerly waiting to hear from You๐Ÿ˜‡.

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  1. Brother – sister combination, lots a fights..but then I’ll always look after her n see she’s never in trouble. I can trouble her but not others ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. Aww Thats so sweet. You make me really jealous.๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜

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      1. everything is 50-50…parents love, things we eat or even the shouts.. so it’s pretty okay if you go to see ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

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  2. I have a sister, so there’s two of us…but sisters can be real pests… ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. ๐Ÿ˜‚That great.. Lots of adventure in life. ๐Ÿ˜

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      1. Malavika, I now blog on my self hosted site. I no longer post on the WordPress platform. You can also follow me on http://www.theextraaamile.com

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  3. Danny says:

    I’m the last child among ten but like you rightly said there are pros and cons whether you are the only child or not.

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    1. You are lucky to have such a huge and beautiful family. ๐Ÿ‘ช
      Thank you so much for commenting!!

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      1. Danny says:

        Thank you! My pleasure.

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  4. ortensia says:

    I am an only child too and frankly as a child it was not a bother at all as I had few good close friends who were only child too so ,I suppose,it was normal.then growing up lots of people where asking how I felt to be alone and I always thought it was a quite stupid question as it felt good being the only thing I knew๐Ÿ’๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธexcept thinking back now I can see the psychological pressure I had that was double of the one my friends with siblings had but still I can honestly say I have never felt sad to be an only child or alone but now that Iโ€™m a adult I kind of envy a little the special bond my mom has with her sisters and I feel that everything is on my shoulder,you are right the worst ,mainly when there are problems or family emergency is that you have nobody to share the burden with.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your experience as an only child.Me too my mother have 5 siblings whom she calls everyday. The bond they share is incredible.I too envy their bond. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ’™

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    1. Thank you so much!
      Glad you liked it ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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    1. ๐Ÿ˜€single children are the best.๐Ÿ˜‚

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  5. da-AL says:

    lovely honest post — good chance you appreciate others more as a result ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Thank you so much!๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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  6. cprateeti says:

    Hey!!! This is a nice piece of writing. Ur tone of language is really good. Well, i m a single child. When i was young, i use to feel myself lucky bcoz all was mine, love, chocolates, time of my parents etc…. etc…. But, now at the stage of teens i feel like sharing everything. My dress, toys, thoughts, love everything. Now, i feel myself unlucky. But, i m lucky too, my parents are evergreen, they understand me a lot. Worth reading ur article. Keep sharing ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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    1. Thank you so much!๐Ÿ˜
      All the single children do face this challenge when we enter into the world,meet new people and slowly our world,friends change some things in us,we tend to evolve.
      Thank you for sharing your experience๐Ÿ˜€

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  7. evermay says:

    I have been trying, unsuccessfully I think, to make a relationship work with a man who is an only child. I am very expressive physically and verbally and he is not, at all. He claims its because he is an only child and only had himself to rely on. I’m struggling to open him up. Maybe it has nothing to do with being an only child…maybe he’s just not that into me?!

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    1. Even though he is a single child,I think all people are different individuals, with their own personal traits.Sometimes he might have an influence of being a single child..but most of them after mingling with people change.So If you have a good talk and patch things up,it will surely work out.

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  8. I have a 9 year old son. He is a single child. It’s good to read your perspective, it helped me understand him better.
    Thanks for sharing. Good to stumble upon your post. Keep writing

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    1. Thank you so much for reading the post.

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  9. Lyk u said,sometimes feelings get shared within u itself….and dat leads 2 thoughtfulness….which gave me intrst in writing….

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    1. Thank you so much for commenting!๐Ÿ˜€

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  10. ๐Ÿฆ‹ Some may say they wish they were an only child. ๐Ÿ˜‰
    At least we will never be an only child of our Father.
    Blessings to you. Great blog.

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    1. Thank you so much for your time๐Ÿ’

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  11. Very beautiful thinking and great writing . ๐Ÿ‘Œ

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    1. Thank you so much!๐Ÿ˜Š

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      1. U r welcome.. keep writing such beautiful articles.. we will be always there for u

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          1. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ’

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  12. katelon says:

    Thanks for following my blog and introducing me to yours!

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    1. The pleasure is mine๐Ÿ˜

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  13. As a parent of an only child, I found your post very interesting. I also agree with you about the preconceived ideas the world has about kids who are the only child. My son will be 21 this year and he has a very outgoing personally. Makes friends easily and has a couple very close friends. He went to daycare and learned sharing there. He also was born when I was 40, which made for a very different life for him versus if I had been 25. I was more established at work and was able to afford more for him. He isnโ€™t spoiled and works for what he wants extra. Heโ€™s strong, caring, and loving and thatโ€™s all I can ask for him to be good to himself and others. Thank you for sharing your story.

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    1. Thank you for reading my post and also sharing your experience๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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  14. I’m the youngest of four, but there are great distances in age of the oldest two and the youngest two. My oldest brother was 16 years older and was more of a father figure after our dad died at age 44 on my 9th birthday. My sister was 10 years older and I think she thought I was a nuisance, but she married at 18 and left just my brother two years older than me and myself. I used to stand at the end of the driveway and watch for the school bus to bring him home when I was too young to enroll. He died in 2011 and sometimes I still feel like that little girl waiting for the school bus to bring him back. My older siblings passed away in 1996 and 2001.

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    1. Sometimes, the departure of loved ones leaves a deep scar in our soul.I clearly understand your pain.And I sincerely hope that you will lead a happy life,as thats what your sister and brother want to see๐Ÿ˜Š

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      1. Thank you, Malavika. I have had and do have a happy life. I can be melancholy about being the only sibling left here, but at my age I’m well experienced in loss including my son nearly 20 years ago, but life does, and must, go on. Faith has been my redeemer and one day I know there will be a reunion. Thank you so much for being concerned.

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  15. Ashok Misra says:

    Well put Malavika! Being a single child has its own joys and …well, you know what I mean. Deprived of sibling company – bonding and sharing, one learns earlier in life how to go about ones things independently, confidently. Parents have a crucial role to play in providing emotional strength to their single offspring, and I believe usually they do. So…carry on with sharing your ideas and feelings through writing. All the best!

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    1. Thank you so much sir for reading the post.๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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  16. Eliza Waters says:

    I have six siblings, so I fought a lot! ๐Ÿ˜‰ I believe one learns social skills with siblings and the art of waiting/patience. I did envy single kids growing up, but now I do love our family parties!

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    1. True,siblings are a lot of fun.When we grow up,we can cherish those memories.Thank you for reading the post!๐Ÿ˜

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  17. Nameera says:

    This was an interesting post! Being an only child comes with its own set of pros and cons. Though the more common assumption that all of us are spoilt brats is hardly true. But yes I do have a cousin who is one. As far as my experience goes, I’ve always been content being on my own and in the company of friends. I hardly remember wanting a sibling, even as a small child. My substitute for siblings was imaginary friends lol.

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    1. Thank you so much for reading the post and sharing your view on it.I love hearing other peoples’ points of view๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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    1. Ravisingh says:

      you are welcome anytime,mam! By the way whats your good name?

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      1. My name is Malavika and I’m still studying๐Ÿ˜Š

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      2. Ravisingh says:

        Thats great,Malavika!

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  18. alienpoet says:

    well written post dear.. i don’t know if you are the old blgger friend of mine..who had same name…but pleasure reading your post..well written

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    1. Thank you so much! I am a new blogger๐Ÿ˜Š

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        1. I am new to this blogging world.May be you have misunderstood me as other person.๐Ÿ˜Š

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          1. alienpoet says:

            ya true..same name..that;s y

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  19. Riman Ray says:

    Pleasure is all mine๐Ÿ˜Š

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  20. Riman Ray says:

    Hey malvika
    I can totally understand this as I’m a single child.
    What you have written is completely relatable.
    Keep sharing๐Ÿ˜Š

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    1. Thank you so much! Its a pleasure meeting like minded people like you๐Ÿ˜

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      1. Riman Ray says:

        Hey malvika..I don’t know why but I am not able to access your post.

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        1. Oh!๐Ÿ˜ฎ Let me check it.

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          1. Riman Ray says:

            Sorted…but no comment section

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          2. Riman Ray says:

            Recent one…stress and stress busting

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          3. I will check it๐Ÿ˜ƒ.

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          4. I am also confused, I updated wordpress recently and I think there is an issue on commenting

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          5. I have refreshed the settings but the comment section is not enabled.I am trying to figure it out.

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          6. Riman Ray says:

            Instead of app, use browser and then change the settings.

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          7. It worked! Thank you so much๐Ÿ˜.If I got to see you I would have given a treat to you๐Ÿ˜‚.

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          8. Riman Ray says:

            ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚oh…
            My pleasure dear.
            Now I can comment ๐Ÿ˜œ

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          9. Haha๐Ÿ˜‚..I think you are a tech savvy.Now you have turned to be my stress buster๐Ÿ˜

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          10. Riman Ray says:

            Aww…that’s so sweet of you

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  21. Equipping says:

    Thanks for following my blog; you are very kind.

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    1. Its my pleasure.And thank you to you too for following my blog๐Ÿ˜ƒ.

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      1. Equipping says:

        Thanks for your words; they are a blessing.

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          1. Equipping says:

            Thanks. Please have a good night.

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  22. Gopika GS says:

    I am also a single child.And so I was able to connect easily to every single word of yours.The post was really amazing!

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    1. Thank you so much! I am really happy that you were able to connect with me๐Ÿ˜€.

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  23. nagstrong12 says:

    I always wish to have a little sister. My princess. Thanks for the post. Keep writing malu๐Ÿคœ๐Ÿค›

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  24. Sruthi Nair says:

    I am a single child and I love to make friends… And yes I have felt that being a single child, you can’t express your feelings and thoughts… But now I got to know that being a single child makes you strong… Thanks for that beautifu post… ๐Ÿ˜€

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    1. You are welcome! I felt really happy seeing your comment…I think I found a good friend in you.Thanks for reading the post!

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  25. Ammu Sree says:

    I’m the only child of my parents like you Malavika..but Im in love with this solitary life…since I don’t have none to talk with at my home,I became talkative among my friends๐Ÿ˜

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    1. Haha..me too…it is really tough for my friends to make me stop jabbering๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜.I think most of the single children are chatter boxes.

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      1. Ammu Sree says:

        Haha..Yes,but there may be exceptions..

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  26. calmkate says:

    yes very interesting to read your point of view … being a sibling also has many drawbacks and pluses ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Thank you so much for reading! But I think having a sibling will give you lots of moments to cherish when you look back in life๐Ÿ˜.

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      1. calmkate says:

        I have too many and we are too different and the sister I shared my room with is riddled with jealousy. As a child she would destroy anything of mine she could get her hands on, as an adult things haven’t changed much ๐Ÿ˜ฆ
        Fortunately I have very special delightful friends ๐Ÿ™‚

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        1. Friends are like clover leafs..hard to find but lucky to have!๐Ÿ˜€

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          1. calmkate says:

            lovely analogy, I couldn’t agree more … very precious ๐Ÿ™‚

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          2. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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  27. Wow that was nice to know Malavika ๐Ÿ˜Š. Thank you for sharing your experience ๐Ÿ˜‡. Well in my case I have a younger brother who I love so much and my life completely changed after he came into my life ๐Ÿ˜Š. I thank god for that and I am thankful to my parents for that matter too ๐Ÿ˜‡. I donโ€™t know how it is to be as a single child because I havenโ€™t had a chance for that. Anyways keep writing and inspire your readers with your words ๐Ÿ˜‡โœจ

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    1. Thank you so much! Your brother is so lucky to have you.If ever God will grant me a wish,then my wish would be for an elder brother.I get super jealous when my friends talk how their brothers care for them๐Ÿ˜‚.

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      1. Aww I know that feeling Malavika ๐Ÿ˜‡. Having the warmth of an elder brother is awesome ๐Ÿ˜Š. I sometimes wish if I had an elder sister you know ๐Ÿ˜‡. Anyways loved reading your post. Keep writing and keep inspiring โœจ๐Ÿ˜‡

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        1. Thank you soo much!!๐Ÿ˜€

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          1. You are welcome Malavika ๐Ÿ˜‡. So are you working or are you studying ?

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          2. I’m studying B A English language and literature,Second year๐Ÿ˜Š.

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          3. Wow thatโ€™s awesome ๐Ÿ˜Šโœจ

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  28. I have a single daughter. I am always worried that she doesn’t have a sibling to make it ‘complete’. Its good to read your blog !

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    1. I think she will make lots of good friends that she doesn’t get time to realise that she is an only child๐Ÿ˜ƒ.Thank you for reading my post!

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      1. I too hope she gets a lot of friends … Always pray that she gets a good husband too … I guess mothers of single kids are always more anxious … She is only 7 by the way ๐Ÿ™‚

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  29. Kurian says:

    I am one among 10. But your story is interesting Malavika

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    1. Wow! Such a huge family is a blessing.Thank you sir for reading the post and commenting.๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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